"Most of us live in our conclusions about the past, whether we had a good one or a bad one."
Living in the Past Now
The goal of "The Recovery Process," which is the name of the work I do, is to assist the client to wake up. Waking up involves what it takes to shift from who you pretend to be, back to who you are, who is busy filling time 'trying to be a specific someone,' more often than not, someone who isn't okay.
When you wake up, what you see is that who you are is okay, and that you fill time using the past to define the present. The present features us reiterating the past in the present, over and over again, which explains one popular definition of "insanity." No one can be who they pretend to be, and not even hard core reiteration can achieve that goal, which explains why life is all about reiteration.
When you wake up, you reconnect with who you are who reiterates the past to play the part of who you pretend to be. Since you can't be who you pretend to be, reiteration defines how we fill time, over and over again, with the expectation that sooner or later we will prove we are who we pretend to be. We are waiting to find out that reiteration worked to prove we are who we pretend to be. This vigil rides on false hope and amnesia. Amnesia keeps us in dumb down mode so we can pursue the fiction reiteration will prove it's possible to defect from who we are. It will never happen.
Most of us live in our conclusions about the past, whether we had a good one or a bad one. If the set of conclusions that run your identify insist the past you had was good, the present features you playing the part of a 'happy person,' sometimes without 'a care in the world.' When you meet someone stuck in the positive, it can be startling. The cup is always full. They refuse to take anything too seriously because they almost know nothing has anything to do with them. They live closer to the truth than those of us who live in the negative. They smile in the face of 'disaster,' while we run around insisting the sky is falling down.
In contrast, the vast majority of us live in the past in the present. The set of conclusions we reiterate is that the past was bad and it damaged us, possibly for the duration. When you wake up, what you witness is how many of us color the present with the past. We live in frozen time, stuck in the fiction our set of conclusions were not only accurate, but they define reality, especially people. As good or bad.
Everyone is eligible to wake up because it is who we are that is busy using 'the bad past' to play the part of someone who was damaged by 'the bad past.' Once you reconnect with who you are, you are free to identify the degree to which you reiterate 'the bad past' in the present to play the part to a victim, somewhere between a part time and a full time victim.
Waking up makes it possible to not only observe how you rely on 'the bad past' to run your view of reality now, but the degree to which almost everyone is doing the exact same thing. You, minus 'the bad past,' are okay. If you multiply the number of us stuck in 'the bad past' by the world's population, what you see is what keeps reality grim. What would happen to the quality of reality if everyone woke up at 1:30 today? It's possible earth would tremble on its axis.